Porn!!

I know that there are some topics that often make us uncomfortable, but guess what it was in the news so I'm going to discuss the topic. Porn, lets get something out there, ALL MEN AND MOST WOMEN HAVE LOOKED AT PORN! To back this up, the University of Montreal tried to do a study of the effects of looking at porn comparing men who had and had not looked at porn, only problem is they couldn't find a man who had never looked at porn. If that makes you think that only men look at porn your wrong, the majority of women also watch porn. If I wasn't typing this on a work computer I would tell you an exact number but I don't want to Google "women looking at porn" on a work computer, it would be the last thing I did before I got fired.

So lets look at the story on ksl. First, the person they interviewed for the story is Dr. Reid, the clinical director at the Provo counseling center. (and there is no bias against porn in Utah county)

The article says

"It's devastating for a lot of marriages," describes Reid. "It's not just the pornography, it's not just that my significant other or spouse were going outside of the marriage to have their sexual needs met, but there are so many other components. Women, for example, feeling 'I can't compete with this pornography, I can't be all of that.' And then they start to have difficulties with self esteem. But there is also this notion of the secrecy and the lies and the deceit around the behavior itself. And you would be surprised, many women will say that the lies and the secrecy and the deception around the behavior is just as disturbing as the behavior itself."

First porn is not going out side your marriage, having sex with another person is going out side the marriage. Which they bring up later in the article with a man who almost broke up his marriage because of his addiction to porn..... AND AFFAIRS!! Looking at porn is no even on the same field as cheating. Second women seeing porn doesn't lower self esteem, they lower their self esteem. Only you can decide how you feel about your self, external forces only magnify the insecurities we have. Third the end of this paragraph says that they find the lying and secrecy as disturbing as the act it's self. Well if it wasn't such a taboo it wouldn't be hidden, Utah consumes more Internet pornography than any other state per capita, yet it is rarely brought up in conversations because the majority of people feel ashamed by it.

I find it funny that they don't bring up may doctors and scientists who say that it is medically beneficial to masturbate (for men AND women) and that looking at porn causes no mental problems.

This whole article was written for a group called "Out in the Light: Women Uniting Against Pornography." It is only disclosed later in the article that,

"‘Out in the Light' is a multifaceted, all out blitz on behalf of Deseret Media Companies to use every resource available -- ksl.com, KSL-TV, KSL Newsradio, Deseret Book and the Deseret News -- to bring this issue out in the light.

This campaign is funded and pushed by the very paper publishing the article! There is no conflict of interest there! Lets be honest, looking at porn doesn't make you a bad person, it makes you normal, and it's organizations like this that try to lower YOUR self esteem by making you feel bad about your self for doing something the majority of the population does.

What I do in my home is my business, not anyone Else's. this should be a decision between a husband and wife, if they decide that occasional porn watching is okay then that's their choice, just like if they want to use whips, chains and handcuffs in the bedroom. Just because it's not what you or I would do doesn't make it wrong, just different. so the moral of this post is quit trying to tell people what THEIR morals SHOULD BE and focus on your own life.